Telling parents dating an older guy
The way women handle difficult emotions is much more psychologically healthy and healing, but it is what it is.
MORE: What to Do When a Guy Withdraws With that said, when a guy is under a lot of emotional or psychological stress, he will want to withdraw socially until he’s figured out his situation.
It’s important that you don’t take his being withdrawn personally. When a woman is upset about something, most women talk to their friends and lean on their support group. Guys, on the other hand, typically view themselves as weak and incapable if they voice their feelings or lean on other people for help or support.
A strong relationship provides security for your children and demonstrates how a loving, respectful partnership should be. After all, they can be so demanding — not to mention fulfilling.
When it comes to relationships, I’m fond of saying, But there are a few couples in my life who I look to as models of the kind of marriage I’d like one day. They are the dynamic centriforce around which the family’s life orbits. There is lots of research to suggest that a happy marriage is the cornerstone of well-adjusted kids. D., writes in her relationship guide, The Book of Love: “No matter how sacrilegious it sounds, you need to put your relationship before your children. If you’re not in a committed relationship, it is very easy to make your kids the prominent one in your life.
And in these families, the parents put their relationship before the kids.
But in this moment when men are struggling to claim their place as equal parents while society expects divorced dads to be the lackadaisical weekend father, I get why you are compelled to go overboard with your expressed devotion. If you are indeed ready for a real love, create a space for her.
Anyone who’s been in a serious long-term relationship knows the journey isn’t without certain challenges, and when you’re dating an older man—we’re talking a decade or more—things can get even trickier.