No strings atatched dating
So after a halfhearted attempt at a romantic relationship, Julia and Steve decided that what they really wanted was "friendship with a little sex thrown in." For years after that, whenever both of them were single at the same time, they would sleep together.
"Friends of mine always used to hope that we would get together, but I always knew there was nothing but friendship," Julia says.
Having regular, no-strings-attached sex with someone you're not romantically involved with has become such a cultural phenomenon that it's acquired a name --"friends with benefits." (Others call it "bed buddies," or use more explicit terms.) For Julia and Steve, it worked out well -- the "benefits" part of their friendship ended when she met the man who is now her husband, but they're still close, and get together for dinner when he's in town. Can "friends with benefits" really benefit both parties, or is there usually unexpected emotional fallout?
"It depends on your attitude towards sex," says Tina Tessina, Ph D, a family and couples therapist and author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again.
During Julia's junior year in college, she met a great guy. "I was at the end of another relationship that had been really good.
So I don't think I was psychologically ready to get involved again and at the same time, I was pretty horny," she recalls.
Prior to the release of the album, NSYNC separated from their management Trans Continental and their label RCA Records; its title is a play on the idea of independence from corporate control.
Who has energy for all the games and the hassles of a relationship? Just as the name implies, this form of dating doesn’t require any form of commitment or responsibility from you.
In fact, of late, Bollywood films have been portraying this concept quite regularly on the big screen.
Even off screen, such relationships are gaining popularity.
"If sex always means love and commitment to you, it's not going to work for you to engage in it as 'just friends.' If sex can be a more casual thing to you, then I think it's possible that you can get together with a friend and agree to do that and not get too emotionally tied up." Julia agrees -- and thinks the "benefits" went further than just enjoyable sex with someone she trusted.
"It was a nice cushion, for times when I was single.